When something terrible happens to you, it may seem absolutely devastating. It could be the loss of a job, the end of a relationship, or the death of a loved one.
These are all events that everyone faces at some point in time. If something horrible happens in your life, you may feel like your world is over and feel hopeless.
However, it is times like these that it is most important to gain a higher perspective.
An event only has the meaning that you give it. If you call something a disaster then that is what it will be in your mind.
You can blame someone or something, but that won’t make it better. You are only giving up control, leaving you to feel even more hopeless.
You can think “Why me?” “Am I being punished?” But this is just negative self-talk that only makes you feel worse.
In your most difficult times of adversity, the best thing you can do is to ask yourself powerful reframing questions. Questions like “What does this really mean to me”? and “What am I going to do about it?”
If you can’t change a situation, change the meaning you give to that situation. Is your problem an uncontrollable disaster, or is it an event that you can learn from and improve yourself from it? Can you take the experience and use it to help others that face a similar challenge?
Viewing an event as a challenge that you can work though and learn from is much different that viewing it as tragedy that is out of your control leaving you helpless.
When tragedy strikes, we often view it as out of our control. However, this is just our viewpoint at the time, which is deluded by the emotions and the meaning we give it.
Take a step back, look at the situation from an outside perspective, and our personal negative emotions will dissipate, removing our cloudy thinking and allowing for a more creative and proactive perspective.
So the real question after gaining clarity of the situation is what are you going to do now? How can you turn this negative into a positive?
You will provide new meaning to the situation and what was once a disaster, is now an obstacle to overcome with a clearer picture and a plan of how to improve the situation.
This is the key to overcoming adversity.