There are so many books, websites, and articles about how to relax, how to fall asleep easier, and numerous other sleep related fixes.
This article is not about those topics. It is astonishing that there is little to no advice on how to physically go to bed earlier. So, I decided to write one.
In today’s world of immense distraction, our attention gets pulled in all kinds of directions. Especially at night, when we are done working for the day and we don’t have any real obligations left.
We tend to focus more on things we want to do, or even just things we are mildly interested in so that we can escape from our hectic day.
Do you ever find yourself flipping channels even though there is nothing you are actually looking for? Or, do you click on a link because a picture or ad caught your attention and before you know it it’s 1am and your reading some obscure article completely unrelated to what you were originally looking for? This is our human nature and if you are not careful, it will become your personal norm.
So, why am I talking about distraction and all this other nonsense? Because, these are the things that prevent us from doing what is best for us like getting to bed on time.
For those of you that want to go to bed early, you probably have great reasons, such as you want to get a good night sleep, or you are really tired from the day and you can’t bear staying up another hour. This seems perfectly logical. So why is it that you plan to go to bed at 10 or 11, but then you watch TV two hours and before you know it your whole plan just fell apart and not only are you exhausted, you’re now pissed off at yourself for staying up so late.
“Oh well, I’ll just make up for it tomorrow night” you think to yourself, and then the whole cycle happens again.
This is no way to live. This is an unbelievably frustrating way to live; yet I’m sure most people go through this same struggle.
Is it hopeless? Are we doomed to poor nights without enough sleep?
We just need to correct this awful pattern that we allow ourselves to enter. When it comes to things like eating at a certain time or leaving work at a certain time, people don’t think twice about it.
12pm and “Oh, time for lunch”.
Or, 5pm and “That’s it for today”. You drop whatever you are doing and head home for the day.
These become your rituals and you do them without even thinking. Well, in order to have great success with going to bed at a certain time, you are going to have to develop the same type of ritual. You could be out in the middle of having drinks with friends, or you could be at home having a marathon watching your favorite show, but when that bedtime comes, you must drop what you are doing.
You must commit to a consistent bedtime.
My advice to you is to set a daily reminder on your phone called “Get Ready for Bed,” which will go off at 10:00PM every night (or about 30 minutes before you actually plan to sleep). As soon as it goes off, stop whatever you are doing, hit the bathroom, brush your teeth, and change out of your day clothes.
You must be dead serious about obeying your phone’s command. Even if you are in the middle of a conversation, you must end it so you can get ready for bed.
After practicing this for enough time, it will become your new ritual. It won’t be something you have to think about, you will just do it and once this occurs, it will become completely stress free because you are leaving decision out of it.
You don’t have to make those difficult decisions of what to do because it’s already been decided for you. It’s now part of who you are.
Well, that is all for how to go to bed. Now stop reading and go to bed!
Also, if you want to continue with more positive habits, check out “To Change the World, Start by Making Your Bed”.